Impolite by default?

Annoying woman. It disturbes me so when people are impolite. Even more so when it is someone that ought to be slightly service minded, like store staff etc. And even more so when it is the owner of the store I go into, and he/she doesn't even have the decency so be polite. Or even neutral. But chooses to be impolite, despite the obvious fact that I am contributing to her income, and to a presumably general good feeling about being able to run a company on her own. The 'annoying woman' I refer to initially is the owner of the handcraft store 'Sländan' in Lund, where I sometimes go to buy knitting yarn. This woman is never bothered with any nicety, not seeming the least interested in helping you finding what you need. When you finally are able to get her attention, she seems to be in a hurry to something else, not really committed, rather just shortly telling you what to get. Without trying to listen to, or understand your questions. I say, you get the general feeling that you are bothering her by just entering the store. Everytime I've been there, I think to myself "I don't want to shop here again". And it bothers me to realise that my options are few other. Stores selling finer yarns are thin on the ground here. I do buy some yarn online, but there are disadvantages to online yarn shopping. Then you have to know more in detail what you want, since it is hard to perceive hues in those online pictures. Moreover, it is not possible to appreciate the texture of the fabric from looking at a photo of a small portion of it. So I always seem to wind up going back to that woman's store again, despite any inner conversations upon previously leaving the store.

You sometimes hear people say 'I couldn't be bothered by being nice, so I might have come of impolite". Does this mean that the human default state is 'annoyingly impolite', and if you want to be polite (or even neutral), you have to make an effort? I hope not. I hope people just mean then that they were so hungry, stressed or tired that they couldn't be bothered being nice (and the tiredness/stress/hungriness was what gave rise to the subsequent impoliteness). Or is being polite a very complicated talent you have to learn throughout life, by developing a general understanding complex human feelings. But she ought to have caught on by now, don't you think? I am not an expert in determining ages of others, but she is at least 45. Why start a store if you don't intend to be polite/service minded? Why not sleep if your tired? Why not relax/sell your store if it stresses you out? Why not go for lunch if your hungry?

And why contribute to the maintenance of stores with such impolite clerks by shopping there?

Now, the trick is to knit. Despite a very active presence of cute cat. He loves the way the knits move, and attempt catching them. When succeding he pulls all the stitches off the knitting needle, over and over. He also love the way the thread slides across my legs, and how the ball of yarn rolls around. Resulting in cute cat biting the thread, or by lying down holding the ball of yarn with his front paws, chewing on it, and kicking hard with the rear paws (claws out). But how do you dicipline something that cute? It will be interesting to see if the this yarn project ever turns into something else than cat entertainment.